This isn’t your typical Valentine’s day post , I’m here to tell you that sometimes life isn’t always beautiful. When I was brainstorming what I wanted to write I kept coming back to the same thing - “Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it”.. Time and time again I see couples new and old staying in relationships that they don’t belong in.
When I was in high school I thought I had found ‘the one’.I would do anything to keep that relationship alive for almost three years. There were times when I lost myself in trying to fit in with my significant other's friends. I let those people define my self worth because I was too afraid to walk away. Hindsight being 20/20 I now see that we are two totally different people and that's okay.
For a few years after the break-up I didn’t date. I spent time focusing on myself. Part of me thought that if I stayed single maybe one day we would get back together but the other part of me knew I needed the time alone. This time helped me grow. I found that when I was ready for my next relationship there wouldn't be any questions, I would know.
Fast forward to now, I have been married for almost 5 months to the man of my dreams. There is a reason why things don’t work out until they work out, AM I RIGHT? In all seriousness, my husband is everything I was looking for as someone I would spend the rest of my life with. We laugh at Memes for hours, he let’s me dance like a total idiot & of course puts up with my constant annoyances. He accepts the good in me but most importantly he accepts the bad.
What is the point I am trying to make? Honestly,it's as simple as choosing happiness over anything else. Take a look at the relationship you are in now. Are you growing as a person, can you be yourself? If the answer is NO it’s time to let go. There is no shame in saying goodbye to something that doesn't feel right. There is a difference in giving up and knowing when it’s time to let go. So on this Valentine's Day if you aren’t celebrating unbridled happiness think to yourself is this right for me?